
I guess some of you knew this, and some didn't, but since March 15th

where boyfriends. It started with him really loving me and me being unsure, mostly cause of my last relationship. That changed about half way in when I did soemthing stupuid and he wanted to leave me, I essentially borke out in tears and realized that I really did love him, granted it was only about a half a day we were split up, he had decided to go back to his ex Alan, but when he found out that I was getting emotional and that I really did love him, he took me back, saying that what he wanted from me was more compasion and emotion.
So a day before our one month anniversary, he was going through a lot of crap at home, his dad was a general dick and his parents where spliting up, he was stressed from worrying about his grades and worried if he would graduate or not, and also feeling guilty cause he had never called it off with Alan when he took me back and didn't like the thought of being guilty, he wanted to split off for awhile and be single, but soon realized that he couldn't abandon me because his life was sucking.
So fastforward to yesterday, things to me had been going well relationship wise, Rube was still a bit depressed and had just spent the whole weekend working on projects so he could graduate. I was so excited to be able to talk to him again after the weekend, and not to mention I had jsut gotten out of a slight depression myself. But anyway that night he was being rather quiet and I got a message from my friend telling me that he didn't think our relationship was working. It completely threw me for a loop, then Ruben went and told me he wanted to break up, and that he didn't love me anymore. I was pretty much heartbroken, but I wanted what was best for him and I wanted him to be happy. I was later told that he actually had never even broken it with Alan from the begining, he didn't even tell his mom that we were dating. I wasn't mad, didn't really know what to feel and I thought I was going to be ok.
So yeah that night, another friend and I were talknig and rping and he jokingly stuck a cherry in my mouth when I yawned and I went and popped it jokingly, and sexual innuedo aside that's when it hit me, I couldn't share my first anything with Ruben, it crushed me. So I went to bed hugging my pillow and barely got any sleep. This morning I was feeling like crap, and some more of my friend consoled me, and I started to feel ok again. So I went and turned in my final sound project and came back and watched tv getting forlorn again, then Ruben came on MSN, and we got to talking.
I asked him what he liked about Alan, and he told me pretty much what I am save for Alan's a fox and I'm an otter. Eventually he told me that he was in love with Alan and of course had fallen out of it with me, and that there wasn't a future for us. I had to go to my room at that point. So after a lot of talking, breaking down, sobbing, hiding myself in the closet holding my pillow and wrapped in my blanket, and generally just going through all the stages of grieving, I started to feel ok and got down to even being somewhat ok with Alan visiting him in a month. It also ended up finding out that a big factor for me and Ruben was the distance, and him getting accepted into VCU would've made a big difference but he never got an application in, and well yeah I started to feel a bit better.
So I went and showered, came back and told Ruben that if Alan did anything he'd have to answer to me and went to go get this off my chest by writing a journal about it, but even as I do this I can kinda feel myself sliping back into not ok territory, so yeah I'm going to be a big emotional roller coaster, and I still really love Ruben dispite all the heartbreak. And yeah . . ,
EDITHeh, before I even got to respond to any comments I bounced out, that's cause I'm gonna fight to get the spark back, I realized that after the first break up I made some changes I thought they were all good, but some of them may not have been, in that I started being way more snuggly and cute instead of tough and boyish, so I'm gonna try going back to that and see if I can rekindle Ruben's love. And hey it can't hurt to try. And they always say if you really want something you've got to work for it.
EDIT 2So I found out why he wasn't in love anymore, in part it was the distance, but also it was that I had stopped being the fun guy he fell in love with. So in a way he pretty much gave me a good reason to get over him, by getting back to being his Big Bro, in time maybe everything will patch up. Of course in the mean time I'm going to deal with the conflict of wanting Ruben to be happy and wanting my happiness with him, so it's gonna be rough, I'm just glad Ruben's a great guy and I'm sure he'll help me through it. And we'll see if fate brings us back together in someway, then that'll be cool, well ok totally awesome, but I'll try and accept that, that might not happen.
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